Some people are so used to chaos and toxicity they will choose stagnation/denial over growth.
They will find any excuse to hold onto the negative traits/situation/characteristics that they’ve normalized.
They’ll never recognize the healthy support and encouragement you offer.
Your normalcy and positivity is a shock to their system. You can’t change a person that refuses to see they are the problem.
That’s why you have to love some people from a distance and above all else protect your peace.
Far too often we hold on to people that we truly should let go. People that undervalue and devalue our worth, yet habit keeps you holding on.
Sometimes we hold on due to the illusion of comfort and convenience or the thought that change may soon come. We need to be as loyal to ourselves and self-worth as we are to others.
Longevity doesn’t always equal loyalty, because some people close to you aren’t there for your benefit, but for their own.
Make sure you know the difference between those that value you and those that see the value of being associated with you, those are two different and separate things entirely. Sometimes it’s hard to determine who isn’t for you because they are dressed up to look like family and friends.
People that truly love you, nourish and feed your soul and uplift your spirit. They are careful not to take too much without making sure they have something to deposit in return. They look after and care for you like they would themselves. That’s why it’s important that the people you choose to love, have shown that they know how to show love to themselves. It’s impossible to give to others what you cannot even give to yourself. Remember you get what you accept.
Likewise, you can’t expect for someone to nourish your soul if theirs is deficient. Everyone is responsible for their own happiness, A person can add to it, but they should not be in control of it. That’s an inside job, don’t allow those on the outside to have more power than you, over you.
Understand the beauty and strength in recognizing and ending relationships and patterns of behavior that mean you no good. Don’t allow anyone to guilt you into staying in a toxic environment.
Sometimes the only way you can grow is to let go of everything and everyone that weighs you down. Be loyal to loving yourself, it’s the longest relationship you’ll ever have.