Smile

When a light bulb burns out we change it, the same concept can be applied to our attitudes. When we feel our attitude sucks, change it. Most of the time changing ones’ mood is merely as simple as changing ones’ thoughts.

The mind is powerful and can be controlling. What you give energy to, has the power to consume you.

If you think negatively you will produce negativity, your thoughts become your self-fulfilling prophesy, likewise if you think positively you will attract positivity. Does this mean that positive people never have days that don’t go their way? No, but it means that instead of harping on went wrong they focus on the things that went well, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant. Truly the difference between a good day and a bad day is perspective.

It’s true that you are what you think so if you think yourself happy, your actions will lead you to being happy, because more often than not, thoughts drive our actions.  The simplest and cheapest form of self-improvement is not money, clothes, make up, hair styles, etc. it is a smile. When you pair that smile with a positive attitude, well you have a winning combination. A simple smile can transform, not only a person’s face, but how others view you as a whole and that same smile can cause a positive reaction in others.

Don’t believe me, well try it out. Take a day to randomly smile at every one you meet in passing. To add extra icing on this cake of positivity add in a hello or have a good day. The thought of wishing a virtual stranger well, resonates within the universe and increases the positive vibes and energy coming back at you. It may be the sunshine needed to brighten a dark day for someone else. Smiles are a cheap, easy and virtually effortless ways to share your light and love with others.

Remember we cannot control what other people think, say or do, we can only control our reactions to them. Choose to walk away from people and situations that do not feed your spirit with goodness and light. Do not allow yourself to relinquish power of your emotional well-being to another. Happiness and joy is precious and invaluable, so don’t sell yourself short.

Practice positive affirmations until it becomes habitual, treat yourself with love and care.

Guard your thoughts and reverse negative thinking. Every challenge or obstacle faced prepares you to be more critical in your thinking and strengthens your resolve and problem solving efforts, which enhances your character. A boulder in your pathway can be a stepping stone or a stumbling block, it’s all about how you perceive and act upon it. You can walk over it or around it, either way you get past it. And that’s the point, that boulder didn’t stop your progress it became a part of it!

A smile may not cure all the ills of the world, but it can make you feel better!

So Smile!~micaiah

Brokenness

In life we encounter people that cannot begin to love/respect you as a friend, mate, and sibling or even as a coworker, because of the brokenness of their own spirit and self-esteem. And we as humans think that it is our duty, especially if we say we love/care for someone, to attempt to fix them even at the risk of our own well-being. Love can be a tricky thing, because it can have you ignore logic and pay attention solely to emotions which can be hazardous to one’s health. When someone for whatever reason is so broken that they cannot love and respect themselves by making healthy and emotionally sound decisions, it will be impossible for them to be involved in a healthy, loving, respectful relationship.

People cannot give to others what they cannot give to themselves.

You cannot love people whole. What you can do is love them enough to encourage them to love and tend to themselves. You can be supportive without being an enabler and motivate them to care enough for themselves to want better, to want to be whole.

Thinking solely with our heart we will fool ourselves into believing that if we accept the brokenness, if we just stand beside them long enough, we can will them into changing. Let me tell you that if a glass falls and breaks, if you are in the vicinity you will get cut as it shatters. Those cuts may not be physical, they may come in the form of mental and emotional exhaustion. Broken people cannot make deposits into you, they only make withdrawals, and it is but one symptom of their brokenness.

That is why you have to put limits on your involvement, pray for them, but let them know you are not OK being in an unevenly yoked relationship and yes, the relationship can be a friendship, work relationship etc.  People need to understand that their brokenness affects others and it’s not OK to stay broken and expect the people around you to make concessions forever.

Tough love can be a wonderful thing and acting as a mirror to a person that cannot see themselves is even more wonderful.

Peace cannot live in the place where chaos dwells. So free yourself from the broken relationship. Pray for them and encourage them to fix themselves.

Most of all be sure to protect and love yourself enough to love them from a safe distance.~micaiah

Soul-Ar Eclipse

I was afraid of my own electrifying power

So I eclipsed my light

I allowed life to live me

I didn’t trust myself to live life

Taking comfort in the solace that darkness brings

While pushing others into their self-fulfilled spotlights

The light that illuminates the flaws and glares blindingly

In the mirror of introspection

Helping others, while allowing my own dreams to be sacrificed in martyrdom

Providing artificial comfort opposed to the the prospect of failure

Until I looked into the brown eyes of an innocent soul

Created in my image

Peering up at me with the expectancy for the appearance of my greatness

Its what was whispered into that young soul from her conception

Bouncing off the walls of the womb in a staccato symphony of what would be

So in the face of such innocent revelry

The nondescript camouflage of complacency

Had to be replaced

With an outfit of Divine Design

Reminding the sleeping Goddess within

That light sprang forth from the Darkness

Its a moral sin to hold such greatness in

Shine on!!!

~Micaiah

Out of Sync


Today is Mother’s Day and all week I’ve felt over emotional and bereft. Most of all I’ve felt out of sync.

For those of us, whose moms are no longer alive this is such a bittersweet day. The woman whose heartbeat we first heard from the inside out, who set the pattern for our own beating heart is no longer around for us to hug, hold, call for advice or just know she’s there.

They say time heals all wounds, but I don’t think it heals them; it just makes them easier to cope with.

While grappling with the waves of grief that tend to catch us unaware we also have to be grateful if we have been blessed with the title of mom, whether that title is bestowed upon you by blood or by love it’s all relative. This love from a child or children is generally the ray of sunshine needed on such a bittersweet day. If nothing else Mother’s day and all special dates and days remind us that tomorrow is not promised and life has limits and limitations and we should appreciate each day given.

Far too often we get caught up in our emotions and want to stop and languish in our despair, but life goes on and so must we. Have your cry or several, then wash your face, take some cleansing breaths and go out and live a life that would make your Mother proud. A mother wants nothing more than for her child or children to be okay mentally, physically and emotionally, therefore, if you can’t get over griefs hurdle alone, go talk to someone. There is no strength greater than recognizing your own weaknesses or areas of vulnerability and asking for help in those areas. Don’t allow yourself to be fooled by the cloak of darkness that grief can cover you in; you were born to live in light.

May you find peace and solace in loved filled memories and may the thought of them embrace you in love and comfort.

Happy Mother’s Day

~micaiah

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