Clarity. Action. Success.

There’s this misconception that adulthood miraculously brings clarity into your life and the reality is clarity can come at anytime. There are a whole lot of adults that are still struggling to find their “way in life.”

And that’s ok. There is no magical switch that can be flipped and voila’ your life is all planned and set. It takes work, time and commitment to see the results you want. Sometimes you have to understand that everything works in divine timing, but we have to keep it real with ourselves too!

We can’t expect to be millionaires if we aren’t putting in the work to make millions. If you’re not putting those plans into action, guess what? They won’t come to fruition. And it doesn’t matter what part of your life it is, words require action or they will forever remain in a perpetual dream state.

So what if you have to start over and reinvent yourself or your approach in order to obtain your desired goal. As long as you have breath, you have opportunity. So keep it pushing. You’re not the only one that isn’t where they imagined they’d be at this point in their life and you won’t be the last one either.

I’ve personally had to restart several times. I just keep brushing myself off and going for what I know and asking for help for what I don’t know. And that’s the key. You have to humble yourself and ask for help when it’s needed. You can’t get ahead because it’s impossible for one person to be all things for all people. So, find a team and delegate tasks to them. Yes, relinquishing control can be scary. But guess what? If you keep doing things the same way, you’ll get the same stagnating results.

Do the self-work you need to do to get out your own way. That self-work looks differently for everyone. It may be meditation and journaling. It could be counseling and therapy. Or it might be a staged intervention from family and friends. Whatever it is, be honest with yourself and recognize what is blocking you from truly living your best life. Ask for clarity on your purpose and align that purpose with your passion. Remember to be open to receiving that clarity too. What you had in mind might not be what’s best for you. Be open to shifting gears.

Invest in yourself and pay for coaching if needed. There is no shame in learning from those that are living the type of life you desire. A closed mouth won’t get fed, the same is true of a closed mind.

Life can be a roller coaster, but those lessons learned are always worth the ride.

~Micaiah

Capturing the moments

When we are kids, we can’t wait to be adults. We think adulthood is some
magical, mythical world where many joys and freedoms reside. Our immature minds cannot comprehend the responsibility being an adult brings. We are far too self-centered at the time and rightly so, to think past our own wants and
needs. We think 30 is ancient and 50 is prehistoric until time seems to speed by,
and, in a blink of an eye, we find ourselves in our parents’ shoes.

Seemingly shocked and unaware of how time morphed from then till now, so
quickly. How did we go from milk and cookies and afternoon naps on cots with friends to paying bills and stressing over adult decisions? Just yesterday, we were picking the highest number to keep from being “IT” all while scoping
out the nearest hiding spots, not too close to home base to be deemed a
cheater.

We did not cherish the sanctity of ignorance and the bliss of childhood
naivete and innocence. Milk and cookies have been exchanged for wine and
charcuterie boards. We did not understand back then when elders would say,
‘getting older was both a blessing and a curse’ as they mourned the loss of
friends, mates, and lovers.

Yet, as we mature and find ourselves in those proverbial shoes of our
parents, we are forced to see things in a brand-new light. As we deal with the
caring of elderly, frail parents or mourn the loss of them. As we navigate
memories of simpler times while hugging friends/family that we failed to keep
in touch with as we pay respect to others lost. Being an adult with all its
perks and freedoms was a heavy place to be.

We use the examples provided by those that went before us. Finding ourselves
repeating phrases to our children that were once said to us as we rolled our
eyes in arrogant youthfulness. We have tidbits of wisdom and have become the
praying warriors our parents and grandparents were. Dealing with our own
children, we see firsthand why some of our parents talked to God so much.

Time passes quickly, whether or not you want it to. And once time has passed,
you can’t get those moments back. That’s why it’s imperative to capture the
memories. So, take time to create a life and not just create a career. Make
real and lasting connections with those you love and care for. A picture does
not have to be aesthetically perfect, for it to be a perfect picture. It’s the
memories and feelings the picture evokes that make it perfect.

In our society, so much time is invested in preparing our children to be
little adults, instead of pushing them to enjoy their childhood, the innocence
and joy of it. Let them laugh, encourage them to play. Let them explore and
teach them to enjoy every minute, creating special memories from everyday
moments.

Take the time to make the time to connect with friends and family and not
just in line giving respects at a funeral. There aren’t many things guaranteed
in life, but death is one thing we all will one day experience, so make those
moments between the dashes count. Live life and capture every memory.

~Micaiah

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