There’s this misconception that adulthood miraculously brings clarity into your life and the reality is clarity can come at anytime. There are a whole lot of adults that are still struggling to find their “way in life.”
And that’s ok. There is no magical switch that can be flipped and voila’ your life is all planned and set. It takes work, time and commitment to see the results you want. Sometimes you have to understand that everything works in divine timing, but we have to keep it real with ourselves too!
We can’t expect to be millionaires if we aren’t putting in the work to make millions. If you’re not putting those plans into action, guess what? They won’t come to fruition. And it doesn’t matter what part of your life it is, words require action or they will forever remain in a perpetual dream state.
So what if you have to start over and reinvent yourself or your approach in order to obtain your desired goal. As long as you have breath, you have opportunity. So keep it pushing. You’re not the only one that isn’t where they imagined they’d be at this point in their life and you won’t be the last one either.
I’ve personally had to restart several times. I just keep brushing myself off and going for what I know and asking for help for what I don’t know. And that’s the key. You have to humble yourself and ask for help when it’s needed. You can’t get ahead because it’s impossible for one person to be all things for all people. So, find a team and delegate tasks to them. Yes, relinquishing control can be scary. But guess what? If you keep doing things the same way, you’ll get the same stagnating results.
Do the self-work you need to do to get out your own way. That self-work looks differently for everyone. It may be meditation and journaling. It could be counseling and therapy. Or it might be a staged intervention from family and friends. Whatever it is, be honest with yourself and recognize what is blocking you from truly living your best life. Ask for clarity on your purpose and align that purpose with your passion. Remember to be open to receiving that clarity too. What you had in mind might not be what’s best for you. Be open to shifting gears.
Invest in yourself and pay for coaching if needed. There is no shame in learning from those that are living the type of life you desire. A closed mouth won’t get fed, the same is true of a closed mind.
Life can be a roller coaster, but those lessons learned are always worth the ride.
Today, I want to impress upon you the importance of seizing the moment, stop waiting and make changes daily as you see the need for them. Time waits for no one and 2020 took many people with it whom died, what I feel was way too soon, some in the very beginning or prime of their lives. So be the change you want to see in your life.
Stop waiting to live your best life. Don’t put off tomorrow what you can do today. Release your fears and tap into your inner courage. Stop being complacent with convenience and mediocrity in your personal and professional life.
Surround yourself with friends and people that challenge you, to be a better you. Friends should be as iron that sharpens iron and act as mirrors to show us our real and true selves. Because the only way to effectively change yourself for the better is to take an honest inventory of yourself and your characteristics and act accordingly.
Realize and accept, that not everyone will be able to make the journey towards self-improvement with you, nor or they meant to. There is a time and purpose for everything and person under the sun, acknowledge when something or someone has outstayed their purpose in your life, release them/it and move on towards vaster and brighter horizons.
Understand that change may not be comfortable, but beautiful things are often birthed through adversity and pain.
Understand that there are dream makers and dream and idea takers, know your circle and know that some moves are not to be broadcast, but are best made in silence, allowing your work or action to speak for itself.
Most of all, forgive yourself of your short comings, what’s done is done and is now in the past. You can’t change the past so resolve to make better, more logically sound choices from this point on. The shame is not in the falling down; it’s being comfortable in staying down.
Tomorrow is never promised so make the most of your Today!
Walking, no, more like stumbling through life
Vision blurred by all that’s occurred
Not staying on course has my dreams deferred
Allowed myself to lose focus
Due to foolishness and hocus pocus
Let comparison rob me of objectivity
had me forgetting about the blessings just for me
Doubt had me believing delayed had turned into denied
Had me trusting in worry and anxieties lies
Had to get regrounded and regroup
Had to familiarize myself again with my own truth
Had to remind myself of whose child I was
And that my gifts are truly a blessing from above
There is no timeframe or race
Just continue on and keep the pace
With renewed faith, my vision cleared
And once again I’m ready to tackle all I once feared.
the tired body
of an overworked mind
alone in bed
ideas take root in my head
revealing itself slowly
like a dawn breaking the horizon
when slumber is fleeting
I obtain the peace I seek
‘fore if I quiet my mind
and listen closely
I hear God speak
The mind is a powerful tool and can also said it’s a powerful trap. It can have you believing in things that are just not true. For example generational curses, are not curses, rather it’s the failure of people within a family to step outside of a particular mindset and obtain a different result.
The reality of it is that when someone chooses to have a different mindset or take a different perspective then you get different results. For example, some families feel poverty is a generational curse. And it can be if all you see for yourself is what has been and not what can be. We can’t change the circumstances we are born into, we can’t change our DNA, but your genes do not determine your future in regard to your capacity to achieve greatness. Your mind state does.
Some people like to be victims of circumstance because when you are a victim, most of the time you are deemed powerless and people sympathize with your plight. Being a victim relieves some people of the responsibility they have to ensure they take the actions to be the change they want to see in their lives. Once you become an adult if you choose not to be great it’s no longer the fault of the missing father or the drug addicted mother, no, that blame lies with and on you. Everyone alive has the same 24 hours in a day, the difference is what you do with it. Will you use your hurdles as stumbling blocks or building blocks?
When we encounter adversity do, we automatically feel overwhelmed and defeated or do we look at how going through this trial will enable us to grow and strengthen our resolve and outlook? There is more than one route to get to any destination, but sometimes you can’t travel the easiest route. No, sometimes you have to be willing to crawl on your belly through the brush and get tangled in a few weeds and even push through the mud, muck and mire in order to reach that end result or desired destination. It doesn’t matter what dirt you had to go through in order to be victorious in the end.
Keep your eye focused on your goal and cut off people that prohibit you from reaching it by weighing you down. Not everyone else will understand or support your need to be and live differently. People will say you think you’re better, and you know what you just might be, not in an arrogant way, but in a way that it’s ok to want the best for yourself and those you love. No one should ever make you feel bad for not settling for being mediocre. When your FATHER is the Creator of all things who is man to tell you to limit yourself or your dreams.
Keep pushing and cast aside those mental habits that chain you to toxic, stagnating ideals and dead-end life styles.
Break those mental chains that bind and confine you. Free your mind and improve your life!