My two cents from a homeschooling momma, due to the “pandemic” children are out of school and families have new normals. Parents now would be a great time to ensure your children are actually learning what they are being taught. Just because children are passed doesn’t necessarily mean they are learning. You have an opportunity to do some one-on-one teaching with your child even if it’s done outside of traditional school hours. Trust me when I say 20-30 minutes goes a long way when it’s not spread among 25-30 kids. Take the time to ensure they are also learning essential life skills: cooking, shopping, finance (saving, stocks, balancing debits/credits), gardening etc. Even children with IEPs can soar when given more time and attention, often not allowable in a traditional classroom setting. If you don’t know something go online. Youtube has great instructional videos and Khan academy is another great resource or make a facebook post requesting help, utilize your village. Please use this time to reconnect or connect even deeper with your children. Learning is life long, happens all around us and most importantly, it starts at home.❤️~micaiahism
Whenever anyone dies, it’s a humbling moment to remind us all of our mortality. No matter how we live or our socioeconomic backgrounds, we all have an expiration date.
Whether you believe in a higher power or not doesn’t negate the certainty of death.
The recent unexpected and tragic death of Kobe Bryant along with 8 other individuals rocked many.
Unexpected deaths are always hard, because there is no time to prepare or guard your emotions.
Now that I’m in my late forties and both my parents and several close friends have passed, it’s hard not to get caught up in an avalanche of grief and tears when hearing about the death of others.
It’s as if the grief of others, stirs up a hornets nest of emotions within me and I know from reading other peoples social media posts and comments that I’m not alone in those feelings.
I honestly have to force myself to limit time on social media as it can become too heavy a burden to bear. Energy no matter the source, can be transferred.
It’s important to take time for self care and to regroup after tragic events or the death of others.
It’s easy to allow the darkness and cloak of depression to envelop you into a false sense of comfort.
Don’t be fooled, your light is not out. The flame may have flickered, but as long as you have breath that light still shines.
So, I’ve committed to living more intentionally.
To appreciate the days and make them count.
To create new and lasting memories.
To live, laugh and love and show appreciation for all those in my life.
To let go of the small stuff and focus on the bigger picture.
I’ve committed to be a better version of myself and live each day to the fullest, because we never know when it will be our last.
I wish I didn’t know…
that one day every living thing must one day go
back to the dust from which it came.
I wish I didn’t know…
that sometimes people don’t get healed
and pain unleashed reveals itself in an avalanche of tears.
I wish I didn’t know…
That cancer is a monster and not just a sign of the zodiac
it doesn’t respect persons old or young and runs you ragged and tortures you before it’s done.
I wish I didn’t know…
friendships don’t always last until you grow old
sometimes death severs it’s hold.
I wish I didn’t know…
Life will give you bitter with the sweet
and bad things sometimes happens to the good folks you meet.
I wish I didn’t know…
That grief can last forever, it’s coping mechanisms that change
When you lose someone you love,
life is never quite the same.
I wish I didn’t know.
A lot of us are great at being honest with everyone but ourselves. We will scream and shout how much we love ourselves and refuse to settle when it comes to how someone else may treat us, but we forget to demand that same level from ourselves.
If you truly love yourself, you’ll work towards being the best version of yourself in every aspect of your life: physically, spiritually, emotionally, mentally and financially.
How much love do you have for yourself if you aren’t working to be the healthiest version of you that you can be? We psych ourselves into believing we have to be in love with our fat selves and our thick thighs, but if that isn’t the healthiest version of you, how is it love? You can be comfortable in who you are, and still recognize your need for improvement.
You tell yourself you can’t be with anyone that has nothing to bring to the table, when your table is being held up by one leg made of bills and debts you owe. Yeah, you have a nice career, but you owe out more than you make. By refusing to get a handle on your debt not only are you not showing love to yourself, but you’re not showing love to the children to whom you’ll leave your debts instead of an inheritance.
We have to be honest with ourselves and admit when we don’t love ourselves as much as we should.
Self-reflection is necessary in order for there to be growth.
Love yourself enough to want the best for yourself and your family in all areas of your life.
If you feel like the blessings aren’t coming, maybe it’s because you need to rid your life of the cluttered chaos in it.
Take inventory and then make a list of steps you can take to clean up the areas in your life that do not represent the love you have for yourself.
Take it one step at a time and don’t be afraid to ask for help in areas where you need it.
You are most definitely worth your best efforts.
Remember love is an action word and that applies even more-so when it refers to how you truly show love for you!
Sometimes it’s hard to inspire when you feel as if you’re floundering at life and your pockets are not filling fast enough.
But then again, those moments of uncertainty that turn out alright are what leads to inspiring moments and testimonies.
It’s easy to give up. To say, well it must not be my time since dreams aren’t aligning with finances.
Finances, or shall I say, the lack thereof, is a major stressor. Businesses and marriages have come to destruction over it.
But we can’t lose sight that sometimes riches aren’t monetary and sometimes blessings can’t be measured.
Peace of mind and joy of heart are priceless. Doing something that fulfills you is invaluable to your self-worth, and shouldn’t be quantified on the basis of a dollar.
That budget is meant to discipline you not confine or define your limits.
Sometimes you have to acknowledge that what you want is surpassing what you need.
We have to place things in perspective and understand that sometimes the only thing standing in your way of pursuing your dreams is being greedy for gain and forgetting to be thankful for more than enough.
Sometimes we have to be reminded that your dreams may be the life saving force someone else has been waiting for.
That book, that business, that apparel line may be the boost someone needs to be reminded that they too can realize their dreams.
That it’s never too late to pursue your purpose.
Don’t give up, you’re richer than you realize and more powerful than you know!
I haven’t written in a while. I was transitioning in my feelings from numb to grieving, once again death called a friend home and left me feeling adrift and bereft. Untethered just floating in a sea of feelings and unleashed emotions
Death is hard, but unexpected death, one not a result of some chronic or terminal illness is even harder; especially when it’s a best friend. A confidante and kindred spirit, someone that you laughingly joked about growing old with. It was surreal seeing her lifeless and so still. She had always been so lively and full of life. Her Aura would bring light to any room, but death robbed the world of her presence.
I’m a spiritual being so I know all souls belong to the Creator and are only on a short loan to those of us that live in this earthly world. Even knowing and understanding her latter end doesn’t make the pain any less intense.
Witnessing another mother bury her child is something I dread each and every time, because by nature I’m an empath and I feel things deeply and knowing I can do nothing to repair the hole left is gut wrenching. Of course I can offer help and sympathy but those things don’t touch that feeling that resides deep in one’s soul when they suffer the loss of someone close to them. I can’t begin to imagine what it feels like for a mother to lose the very person that grew inside her womb.
The older I get it seems the more prayers and condolences I extend, and yet the world keeps turning and days continue into night. And although death changes the world of those effected, the rest of the world goes on. And although at times you wish you could curl up in a ball and just forget about everything and everyone else, you can’t, because you still have life within you.
And because you inherently know you have a responsibility to keep the memory and love of the deceased alive. So you surf the waves of your grief, you allow yourself to feel, but you fight to keep your head above water because you don’t want to purposely hasten your own demise and be the cause of someone’s else’s grief.
The circle of life keeps turning much like the earth. We latch on to friends and family and every golden memory we can in an effort to establish a new normal.
That’s where I find myself, trying to find my new normal, without one of my best friend’s advice and input, one without her notes left in my library books on the hold shelf. A life that is without her text messages full of inside jokes and one that is without her book nerd humor and shared favorite authors and titles. One without her voice and knowing they’ll be no new songs sung it’s all still so hard to comprehend.
But I know she would push me forward and want me to accomplish all the goals and dreams we had discussed. She’d want to see me smile and laugh and enjoy life fully. So some way somehow I will, because to keep a smile on my face and joy in my heart may just be one of the best ways to remember her.
Missing you and loving you forever my friend
In Loving Memory of Hilakiyah Yisrael 3/10/1970-5/5/2019
The science of mind is our ability to change our lives with the changing of our mindset. Words and thoughts hold power and we have the power to self-sabotage our happiness when we put unhealthy vibrations in the universe.
Sometimes we expect failure, although we put on the facade of believing in forever.
When we think failure, we do things without full effort and without full effort relationships become burdensome and disintegrate. When we want success, we must think successfully. Affirm that what you want is what you will have. Claim it as truth and being present already.
Energy is movement so when you focus your thoughts on positive things the universe works to place those things in motion for your good. But you must work towards them. Words without actions are dead.
Make your goals visible, this is one reason why vision boards are so powerful. They make goals real, tangible and obtainable. A visual reminder of where you need to focus your time and energy. They can be revised, as we reach new levels in self- awareness our goals and aspirations may change and that is an awesome and freeing thing.
The only limits in your life are the ones you set.
So, let your limits be boundless.
Speak and claim positivity and abundance in and on your life; invest in and sponsor your dreams.
Voice your victories and speak prosperity into your life.
You have the power to live your best life.
No more fear, no more doubts, no more excuses.
Just do it!