Tag: time

Anticipating grief

There is a particular kind of grief that comes with loving someone who is still here.

A grief that begins long before goodbye.

A grief that sits beside you at dinner, rides with you in the car, and sleeps in the next room.

Because terminal illness doesn’t just take a life.
It slowly changes it.
And those who love them bear witness to every loss along the way.

My sister is still here.

But cancer is steadily asking more of her and more of those who love her.

As her primary caregiver, her person, her sister, I spend my days helping her navigate what this disease has stolen while trying to preserve what remains.

As a nurse, I’ve walked beside countless families through this journey.

Yet nothing prepares your own heart when it’s your family.
When it’s your person.

There are no clinical skills for this part.

No textbook chapter on watching someone you love slowly surrender pieces of themselves while you stand helplessly beside them.

So I pray.
I support.
I advocate.
I comfort.
I carry what I can.

But some nights, I find myself wondering:

Who comforts the comforter?

Whose shoulder do I rest my head on when I’ve spent so much time being a place for others to lean?

Because while grief is asking much of me, life has not paused.

I am still Mom.
Still working full-time.
Still preparing to permanently raise the toddler cousin who already calls my heart home.

And somewhere in the middle of all of this, I am navigating menopause, becoming acquainted with a version of myself I have never met before.

Some days I feel strong.

Other days I feel stretched so thin that even breathing feels like work.

But I keep showing up.

Not because I’m fearless.
Not because I’m strong all the time.

But because love requires things from us that comfort never will.

If you’re carrying a burden no one sees…
If you’re grieving someone who is still alive…
If you’re holding everyone together while quietly falling apart yourself…

I see you.

I am reminding myself of the same thing I would tell you:

You do not have to carry all of this alone.

~micaiah

Honor Time: A Call to Intentional Living

Time is one of the most precious gifts we have—and yet, it’s often the one we take for granted. We get caught up in the grind: working endlessly, chasing material things, and letting days slip by without truly connecting with the people who matter most.

What Really Matters

Life isn’t about possessions. It’s about presence. It’s about being intentional with our friends, our loved ones, and ourselves. The truth is, tomorrow isn’t promised. And when someone is gone, you can’t go back and fix what was broken. That’s why healing, forgiveness, and meaningful connection are so vital.

Boundaries vs. Bitterness

This isn’t about tolerating disrespect or putting yourself in harm’s way. Boundaries are sacred. But sometimes, the walls we build are made of ego, miscommunication, and pain we’ve held onto for too long. We remember how we felt, but not why. And that pain? It limits us. It steals joy from the moments we could be living fully.

Choose Healing

Take the time to heal. Let go of grudges that no longer serve you. Choose peace over pettiness. Choose love over pride. And choose a daily “diet” that feeds your soul—one free of negativity, pessimism, and drama. Nourish your mind, body, and spirit with things that uplift and inspire.

In the end, God isn’t counting your degrees or your designer labels. He’s looking at your heart. So live with intention. Love deeply. And honor the time you’ve been given.~micaiah

What If Tomorrow Never Comes

Don’t Wait Until Retirement to Enjoy the Fruits of Your Labor

Retirement is often seen as the golden period of life, a time when we can finally relax and enjoy the fruits of our labor. However, waiting until retirement to celebrate yourself and enjoy life can be a risky gamble. Once you retire, you have more days behind you than ahead of you, and the reality is that tomorrow may never come. It’s crucial to stop waiting and start celebrating yourself now.

The Importance of Living in the Present

Life is unpredictable, and the future is uncertain. While planning for retirement is important, it’s equally vital to take time off and enjoy what truly matters—spending time with family, friends, and loved ones. These moments of joy and connection are what make life meaningful. They are the memories that will stay with you forever, far more valuable than any material possession.

Laugh, Live, Love.

Jobs Serve a Purpose, But Shouldn’t Be Your Sole Purpose

Our jobs serve a need—they provide financial stability, a sense of accomplishment, and sometimes even personal fulfillment. However, they should not be the sole purpose of our lives. It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of work, but it’s essential to remember that life is about more than just your career. Taking time to enjoy hobbies, travel, and simply relax can lead to a more balanced and fulfilling life.

Celebrate Yourself Today

Don’t wait for a milestone like retirement to start celebrating yourself. Take a day off to do something you love, plan a weekend getaway with your family, or simply spend an evening with friends. These moments of joy and relaxation are not just indulgences—they are investments in your well-being and happiness.

Take time to enjoy life

Remember, while it’s important to plan for the future, it’s equally important to live in the present. Don’t wait until retirement to enjoy the fruits of your labor. Celebrate yourself today, spend time with loved ones, and make the most of every moment. Life is too short to wait for tomorrow—embrace today and live it to the fullest.~micaiah

Embrace Your Own Truth


Life often feels less like a smooth path and more like a winding, sometimes treacherous, journey.

We’ve all been there—stumbling, our vision blurred by past hurts and present uncertainties. It’s easy to get knocked off course, to let our dreams gather dust, and to lose focus in the face of what feels like “foolishness and hocus pocus.”


My poem, “My own truth,” beautifully captures this struggle:

My Own Truth

Walking, no, more like stumbling through life
Vision blurred by all that’s occurred
Not staying on course has my dreams deferred
Allowed myself to lose focus
Due to foolishness and hocus pocus
Let comparison rob me of objectivity
had me forgetting about the blessings just for me
Doubt had me believing delayed had turned into denied
Had me trusting in worry and anxieties lies
Had to get regrounded and regroup
Had to familiarize myself again with my own truth
Had to remind myself of whose child I was
And that my gifts are truly a blessing from above
There is no timeframe or race
Just continue on and keep the pace
With renewed faith, my vision cleared
And once again I’m ready to tackle all I once feared.~MY


It’s a powerful reminder that comparison can be a thief of joy, blinding us to the unique blessings tailor-made just for us. Doubt can whisper lies, convincing us that delays are denials, and pulling us into the trap of worry and anxiety.


But the poem also offers the profound solution: we must reground and regroup, and most importantly, familiarize ourselves again with our own truth.

This means remembering our inherent worth, acknowledging the unique gifts that are truly blessings, and understanding that our journey isn’t a race against anyone else.


With renewed faith, our vision clears, and we find the courage to confront the very things we once feared.

So, if you’re feeling lost or off-kilter, take a moment to reflect. What is your truth? What blessings have you overlooked? And what fears are you ready to conquer with newfound clarity?
Embrace your journey, trust your pace, and let your own truth light your way.
~micaiah

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