Always Under Construction

Lately, my life has been looking like a lane on I-75/I-71 going through Cincinnati, constantly under construction. I am constantly trying to get things in “order” so that I can be my “best” self. And I have come to realize just like the never ending construction that I bemoan on the highways that pass through my city, the construction in my life is also never ending and that’s okay.

My life my never be ideal or perfect, but just like we navigate through and around orange barrels, detours and redirects; we must do the same in our lives. Because whether it’s a street map or life map, if you keep driving/pushing eventually you will make it to your final destination.

That journey may not look like anyone else’s and while it’s frustrating to witness others arrive before you, it can also be inspirational and motivational. Perspective is the ability to change your outlook by changing your attitude or view of the situation. Sometimes life defers our moments so that we can better appreciate them when they occur. Trust that delayed is truly not denied.

While navigating my own detours and redirects, I have come to the realization that if you do not work daily to motivate yourself, you won’t be motivated. Motivation takes daily work, time and commitment. It also takes the gumption to stop putting off hard tasks, whether those tasks be physiological or psychological in nature; you have to show up and do the work.

My biggest weakness or flaw that I am constantly working on is procrastination. I allow myself to become comfortable with the excuses that I have told myself are acceptable so as to assuage the guilt of my complacency. Yeah, we feed ourselves excuses instead of feeding ourselves motivation sometimes. Starve your distractions and feed your focus is a mindset I have yet to master, but I’m under construction right? While it’s true I may be a constant work in progress, I still need to see some small steps towards progress; which means committing myself to work on the things that keep me from progressing i.e. my procrastination.

Procrastination is a low key arrogance issue, because it tends to create a false sense of being guaranteed the time of tomorrow. We all know tomorrow isn’t promised, yet we will allow ourselves the comfort of complacency by stating we will do “it” tomorrow, whatever “it” is. We need to take the leap and do it today.

Do “it” scared, unprepared, under stress, with less than optimal finances. Just do it! We can’t be worried about the messiness of our construction in our lives. It may not be pretty, but if that mess leads to your ultimate progress than it’s more than worth it.

I have determined not to give up or give in. I can’t be the next New York Times Best Selling Author if I’m not writing. I can’t be my best self if I’m not working and taking those small steps towards progress. So, I’ll be content with the orange barrels and detours in and around my life and remind myself that as long as I stay moving, eventually I’ll get to where I want to go and you will too.

~micaiah

The Race is not Given to the Swift

In today’s age of millennials and entrepreneurship, those of us over 40 and just coming into our own may feel a little bereft. These young people sure do seem to have themselves together and have an outlook on getting ahead and working for themselves while creating multiple streams of income.

It may appear that they have reached their summit before you did and that has you feeling a bit slighted. Don’t be. The environment is ever shifting focus, for those of us in our 40’s and above the focus was always on obtaining a trade or college education, the thought of working for oneself was just not something most of our parents heard of or were comfortable promoting. Instead, most were encouraged to find a job/career and stay there forever. 

As times changed so did perspective and people are beginning to see that sometimes college education can give you an advantage over the next candidate and sometimes a degree can just get you in debt. Therefore, people are pushing the idea of business ownership and branding, versus working for someone else, supporting and financing of one’s own dreams instead of just building others.

It takes courage to break out of a mold and to try something new and different. So it is worthy of applause for those individuals that after years of working a job as instructed by dear old mom and dad, have decided to revisit their dreams, passion and or purpose and pursue them. Being older, hopefully, means wiser as well, and more in tune to what truly drives our happiness and what we need in order to live fulfilled lives.

I think these “well-seasoned” entrepreneurs have a lot of knowledge as it pertains to life skills that are beneficial when promoting one’s business and brand. People are teaching themselves and other new tricks, dispelling that “old dog myth”.  It is never too late to reinvent oneself.  All you need is the drive, determination, and motivation to change your mindset and ultimately your life.

Don’t allow anyone or any circumstance to place you in a box. Remember and repeat to yourself daily, if necessary, that the only thing standing in your way is you. Empowerment starts with self. Believe in your own self-worth and envision yourself successful. No matter the age we are all humans attempting to live out our best life. Collaborate and learn from one another, old and young working together collectively ideas and experience abound. 

There is a saying that states, the race is not given to the swift, but to those that endure to the end. So keep pushing and don’t quit. I believe with you!

~Micaiah