Free to fly

Would you jump out of a plane without a parachute?

Well maybe you would if you knew you could fly!

The scary part is figuring out the unknown, but that’s also the adventure.

So many of us are leading safe lives. Safe, however, doesn’t always equal fulfilling. Whether we chose the safe mate or the safe job versus the relationship or career that would have required some time, focus and effort. The thing about safe is, it often lacks passion and over time we lose interest.

Which leads us to look for the next safe or sure mate or job. Relationships nor jobs should be burdensome, when they are they drain us of energy and add undue stress and at times even physical ailments to our lives. I harp a lot on life being too short to live unhappily. Our lives should be lived with passion and purpose, and that often involves risk.

What better bet is there than to bet on yourself?

Faith is to believe in the unseen, so envision and then live your best life. For now, you may plan to work, but be planning to work your plan. Write it down, make a vision board, record your thoughts. Do what you have to now, so that you can do what you want to later. But whatever you do, don’t give up on your dreams and don’t lose your vision. If you can commit to working to the express benefit and betterment of someone else, why not channel those energies into a business idea for yourself.

We have so many talents that we leave on the back burner for the sake of being “responsible” and making sure money, it’s understandable, but again if it’s not making you happy or adding to your sense of peace of mind, it’s not worth it in the end.

Sometimes the only thing between you and success, is YOU! Stop blocking your growth and stop blocking your blessings.

Speak your prosperity and vision of success into the Universe and believe in the power of YOU!

~micaiah

Circle of life

The difference between life and death is literally breath!

In order to be blessed with the gift of life, you will at some point and time experience the pain of physical death. I say physical death because the spirit of a person lives far beyond the physical body is capable of.

Remember, life although a blessing does not always seem fair and likewise death does not discriminate taking old and young alike.

It’s hard not to question those things which you truly do not understand, it does not make you a bad person it makes you one that is hurting.

How you deal with death is a personal thing and likewise so is the grieving process.

No one can tell someone else how to grieve or what an acceptable grieving time frame should be.

Rather we have to understand that there are varying stages of grief and they are not always followed in a logical or sequential order.

Loss of life causes a gaping hole in the lives of those connected to the person.

We grieve not just the loss of life, but sometimes we lose purpose and connection that the person afforded us.

For those who have become caregivers of the deceased, we have to now find something to fill the free time we find ourselves with.

What do we do with ourselves when our days are no longer bombarded with caring for others, doctors appointments, cooking, cleaning and the like?

What happens when we are no longer busy, being busy?

That is usually the time when grief becomes real, after the memorials, funerals and family have all gone back to living their lives.

The grief can be enveloping and if you are not careful, all consuming. It can be the heaviest thing you have ever carried in your life and without a support system, it can overtake and overpower you.

Whether that support system is friends/family, spirituality or faith based, ground yourself in that support.

It’s easy to isolate yourself and feel as if no one else knows the pain of your loss and while all loss is individualized in how it affects you, there are many others that have felt the pain of loss in their lives.

I have learned through the many experiences I have had with death, those occurring naturally and even murder, ranging from miscarriage, childhood best friends, parents, sibling and other family members that the best way to honor a death is to keep or start living a purpose filled life.

Death, if nothing else, teaches us that time is limited and for some it is more limited than for others.

We must live each day with the determination to live our best life. It is the simplest way to honor the love, legacy and spirit of those that have gone before us.

Does that mean we won’t have days filled with tears or intermittent moments of sadness, of course not, emotions and the ability to express those feelings make us intimately more human.

But don’t drown in those depressed emotions, because life with all its twists and turns is a true gift and we must go on!

Time doesn’t truly erase all grief, but it does make it a lighter load to bear!

So brush off the happiest memory you can find from the recesses of your mind and clothe yourself in that memory.

Let the warmth of that moment envelope you and let the smile that it brings act as a light to illuminate all your darkest hours.

Go forth love, laugh and most of all LIVE!!

~micaiah

 

 

Sparking the flame

Sometimes it’s hard to follow through on realizing a dream. Oftentimes for no other reason than we stand in our own way. We let the minor details overwhelm us into do nothingness. Instead of combating each small goal one step at a time. We get comfortable in the darkness and stop working towards the light.

 

This was a problem I battled. For years friends and acquaintances alike encouraged me to write a book, to get my words out there. And for years I hemmed and hawed and smiled saying I would or that I was working on it. Most of the time working on it meant I wrote down my goal and a few notes and then became overwhelmed at the thought and pushed it away. Until one day a sister-friend saw I needed a good shove off the ledge. She called and me and said, “Sis you have all the material already for a book. Copy and paste all those Facebook posts, print them out, categorize them and publish your book!” In other words, “Sis stop playing and make a move!” So, that’s exactly what I did.

 

My friend was the catalyst bearing clarity I needed to clearly see the steps and path I needed to take to reach my goal. Once that path was laid, it was nothing to complete. I had a book self-published so fast even I was in awe of myself. Luckily for me that fire is still burning and the urge to create is still there. So, I’m writing and blogging and creating, preparing for my next project or projects. I’m trying not to worry too much about sales and projections. I understand to finish big you must start small and I’m already claiming greater works and greater sales in my future endeavors.

 

That’s the thing about dreams, you must keep pushing and working on them. No matter what the outlook may look like. The adversary will try to trick you into believing your good wasn’t good enough, or that your best fell short. But I know that light flows out of darkness, the flame will spark, if you are patient and just keep pushing!

 

Refocus, reorganize, re-energize but don’t you dare quit!

~Micaiah

Reflecting on my blessing

November is my birth month and as I get ready to celebrate my 47th revolution around the sun on the 10th I sit back and think of what my life has been so far.

I must thank my parents, a bittersweet contemplation as they are both no longer on this earth with me. I continue to hold them in my heart and I pray I am a good representation of what they were both like as parents and individuals.

47 years and still so much I want to accomplish but I’ve learned that you can’t discount the little things in your life when counting blessings.

Sometimes we get caught up waiting for the “big blessings” and forget to be OK with having enough. There are so many people that do need have enough to meet their basic needs and yet we all get caught up in the vanity of our desires. But it’s here and now as I contemplate my life thus far that I make a conscious effort to be OK with enough. I know that more good things are destined for my life, but even if there weren’t I couldn’t complain because I’ve been greatly blessed. Blessed with a 2-parent home growing up, siblings, friends that became family, great school experiences, introduction to art and culture, self-identity, traveling outside my city and state, motherhood, skills, creative mind-set, nursing career and more. Phew! That’s a lot to be thankful for.

I also have come to realize how important it is to take the time to make the time. We often say we are too busy with life, family and work. But when you lose a loved one or friend and you reflect on all the missed moments that you were “too busy” you come to realize that you will make time and effort for things and people that are truly important. Love just can’t be spoken it has to be shown to truly be felt in its wholeness. There is no better feeling than true love, friendship and admiration. If someone crosses your mind call them or visit. Don’t rely on social media and allow it to replace the intimacy of human contact and interaction.

And although at times I think I should be much further in life than I am, I also understand I am exactly where I need to be, and I helped exactly who I needed to by being exactly where I am. So, I am appreciating and trusting the process.

I will continue to dream my dreams and chase my goals. I will take the time, to make the time for family and friends. I will laugh, love and live. Most of all I will be thankful for enough and remember that I am enough personified!

Remember to make the time between the dash count!

~Micaiah

Multi-masking

Sometimes in our quest to find fulfillment, we become overwhelmed and our mind shuts down.

We can envision so many scenarios for our life but unless we stick to one path and one goal at a time, the road becomes cluttered with an overabundance of paths that lead to nowhere. It’s impossible to learn to walk without learning the art of taking one step at a time, such is true in regard to progression in life.

There very well may be a broad picture, but sometimes we have to allow ourselves to work up to that, one stroke and one step at a time. Not allowing ourselves to measure our progress through the comparison of others seemingly on similar paths. Each journey is different and each lesson is Divinely tailored for the person receiving it.

We have to learn to be patient and for some waiting is so very difficult. But when we attempt to push when we are supposed to be still, the Supreme Power has a way of shutting us down and forcing us to be still and listen to instruction. It’s impossible to listen when one is not focused and one cannot be focused when energies are concentrated on a multitude of things all at once. It’s when we are unfocused that we often find we are busy, yet still accomplishing nothing, because we have not devoted ourselves 100% to one thing at a time.

There is a difference between multi-tasking and multi-masking, multi-tasking is completing or performing multiple tasks at the same time to a desired end. Multi-masking is the appearance of making moves when no progression or completion of tasks is actually ever made.

We have to allow ourselves breathing room, learning how to not only be patient with others, but more importantly with ourselves.

So stop trying to force your neighbor’s shoes onto your feet and stop trying to follow the map to someone else’s life, it won’t lead you to your treasure.

Stop worrying about how your life looks to others and get busy one step towards progress at a time

Instead, BE STILL. LISTEN. PLAN. Then FOLLOW your plan to get to your desired end result.~micaiah

Smile

When a light bulb burns out we change it, the same concept can be applied to our attitudes. When we feel our attitude sucks, change it. Most of the time changing ones’ mood is merely as simple as changing ones’ thoughts.

The mind is powerful and can be controlling. What you give energy to, has the power to consume you.

If you think negatively you will produce negativity, your thoughts become your self-fulfilling prophesy, likewise if you think positively you will attract positivity. Does this mean that positive people never have days that don’t go their way? No, but it means that instead of harping on went wrong they focus on the things that went well, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant. Truly the difference between a good day and a bad day is perspective.

It’s true that you are what you think so if you think yourself happy, your actions will lead you to being happy, because more often than not, thoughts drive our actions.  The simplest and cheapest form of self-improvement is not money, clothes, make up, hair styles, etc. it is a smile. When you pair that smile with a positive attitude, well you have a winning combination. A simple smile can transform, not only a person’s face, but how others view you as a whole and that same smile can cause a positive reaction in others.

Don’t believe me, well try it out. Take a day to randomly smile at every one you meet in passing. To add extra icing on this cake of positivity add in a hello or have a good day. The thought of wishing a virtual stranger well, resonates within the universe and increases the positive vibes and energy coming back at you. It may be the sunshine needed to brighten a dark day for someone else. Smiles are a cheap, easy and virtually effortless ways to share your light and love with others.

Remember we cannot control what other people think, say or do, we can only control our reactions to them. Choose to walk away from people and situations that do not feed your spirit with goodness and light. Do not allow yourself to relinquish power of your emotional well-being to another. Happiness and joy is precious and invaluable, so don’t sell yourself short.

Practice positive affirmations until it becomes habitual, treat yourself with love and care.

Guard your thoughts and reverse negative thinking. Every challenge or obstacle faced prepares you to be more critical in your thinking and strengthens your resolve and problem solving efforts, which enhances your character. A boulder in your pathway can be a stepping stone or a stumbling block, it’s all about how you perceive and act upon it. You can walk over it or around it, either way you get past it. And that’s the point, that boulder didn’t stop your progress it became a part of it!

A smile may not cure all the ills of the world, but it can make you feel better!

So Smile!~micaiah

Brokenness

In life we encounter people that cannot begin to love/respect you as a friend, mate, and sibling or even as a coworker, because of the brokenness of their own spirit and self-esteem. And we as humans think that it is our duty, especially if we say we love/care for someone, to attempt to fix them even at the risk of our own well-being. Love can be a tricky thing, because it can have you ignore logic and pay attention solely to emotions which can be hazardous to one’s health. When someone for whatever reason is so broken that they cannot love and respect themselves by making healthy and emotionally sound decisions, it will be impossible for them to be involved in a healthy, loving, respectful relationship.

People cannot give to others what they cannot give to themselves.

You cannot love people whole. What you can do is love them enough to encourage them to love and tend to themselves. You can be supportive without being an enabler and motivate them to care enough for themselves to want better, to want to be whole.

Thinking solely with our heart we will fool ourselves into believing that if we accept the brokenness, if we just stand beside them long enough, we can will them into changing. Let me tell you that if a glass falls and breaks, if you are in the vicinity you will get cut as it shatters. Those cuts may not be physical, they may come in the form of mental and emotional exhaustion. Broken people cannot make deposits into you, they only make withdrawals, and it is but one symptom of their brokenness.

That is why you have to put limits on your involvement, pray for them, but let them know you are not OK being in an unevenly yoked relationship and yes, the relationship can be a friendship, work relationship etc.  People need to understand that their brokenness affects others and it’s not OK to stay broken and expect the people around you to make concessions forever.

Tough love can be a wonderful thing and acting as a mirror to a person that cannot see themselves is even more wonderful.

Peace cannot live in the place where chaos dwells. So free yourself from the broken relationship. Pray for them and encourage them to fix themselves.

Most of all be sure to protect and love yourself enough to love them from a safe distance.~micaiah

Soul-Ar Eclipse

I was afraid of my own electrifying power

So I eclipsed my light

I allowed life to live me

I didn’t trust myself to live life

Taking comfort in the solace that darkness brings

While pushing others into their self-fulfilled spotlights

The light that illuminates the flaws and glares blindingly

In the mirror of introspection

Helping others, while allowing my own dreams to be sacrificed in martyrdom

Providing artificial comfort opposed to the the prospect of failure

Until I looked into the brown eyes of an innocent soul

Created in my image

Peering up at me with the expectancy for the appearance of my greatness

Its what was whispered into that young soul from her conception

Bouncing off the walls of the womb in a staccato symphony of what would be

So in the face of such innocent revelry

The nondescript camouflage of complacency

Had to be replaced

With an outfit of Divine Design

Reminding the sleeping Goddess within

That light sprang forth from the Darkness

Its a moral sin to hold such greatness in

Shine on!!!

~Micaiah

It takes a Fool to Learn

I speak from the perspective of a woman, after all that is what I am.

Sometimes as women we accept preconceived notions and we convince ourselves that these notions work for us. For example, men who habitually cheat, (please note there is a difference between a man who sneaks, lies and deals treacherously then one whom expresses in truthfulness that he is not interested in being with just one woman), just because the truth may hurt, doesn’t make it less true. Anyway, some women accept that lying cheat as the evidence that all men cheat and in turn she should get used to being treated as less deserving.

These same women put up with the lies and disrespect because she figures she had better stick with what she knows, rather than to risk the unknown. They think it’ll be the same thing,  with a different man; never understanding that lack of boundaries helped create this lack of respect. You can’t accept people’s garbage and then wonder why they treat you like trash. It’s like having Stockholm Syndrome and loving and having empathy for your abuser, because whether you recognize it as such, placing yourself in a situation to be degraded through treachery and lies is emotional and mental abuse, which leads to feelings of worthlessness and lowered esteem.

What you allow is what will continue. You have to command respect and if those demands aren’t met you have to love yourself enough to walk away from any situation that culminates in you being treated less than the treasure you are.

Women please don’t look at being alone as being lonely, use that time to define and refine You. Treat yourself to all the things you deserve. Learn the beauty and peace in self-love and self-respect, learn the soul fulfilling joy of peace of mind.

Do not allow someone else to become so important to you that you lose yourself and lose your dignity.

Forgive yourself for lapses in judgments and bad decisions and choices, as you know better, be determined to do better and you can’t safely move forward if you’re stuck looking backwards.

A Queen doesn’t stop being royalty just because there is no King by her side. So clothe yourself in love and crown yourself in self-worth and don’t allow anyone to treat you as less than Regal woman that you are.

 ~Everyone at some time or another has played the fool for love, the trick is in not being comfortable remaining one!

~micaiah