For so many years I would put off writing a book or I would start a blog only to stop shortly after. But this past October with the help and push from a sister-friend I finally made good on my word to publish a book. The surprising part was once I wrote the plan and acted upon it, it took literally no time at all to put the book out there. It’s kind of sad when I think of all the years, I wasted procrastinating. I could have been perfecting my skills and been on my way to a best seller by now. But then I had to think that everything works in its appointed time. We may not understand the big picture, but we must learn to adapt to it.
Now that its my creative season, ideas and stories are coming to me from several directions and I’ve been writing, planning and creating. And that’s all while still working a full-time job, homeschooling my daughter and being her mom, playmate, principal and everything in between. I love it though. I finally feel like I am working towards my purpose. I am getting my words out there.
So, what if I’m not on the best sellers list yet! It’s a wonderful feeling when people inbox or text you that your words made an impact on them even in a small way. I’m finally working on my dream daily and not just telling people I will one day.
I’m just thankful for friends that have the spirit of discernment and pushed me into my now! Sometimes you must get out there and start doing and when you do, its like a domino effect and things just start falling together.
I haven’t felt this creative since my early days at The School for The Creative and Performing Arts. Its nice to know the gift was lying dormant just waiting for me to pick up my pen and start writing again.
This time I may take short breaks but I’m no longer willing to quit!
Do not compare your life to anyone else’s. We all have to follow our own path. No two people will follow the same path and trajectory and they aren’t meant to.
Teddy Roosevelt knew what he was saying when he stated, “Comparison is the thief of joy”, because it will rob you of your peace of mind when you try and compare your success, your status, your life with those around you. You don’t know how many souls may have been sold for so and so to live that fabulous life. Remember even salt looks like sugar, but trust everyone is not living a sweet, stress free life.
The only person you should be better than is the person you were yesterday. You are your only true competition. Live like it. No one can do you better than you can. So stop allowing commentators to narrate your life story. You are the star. Stand in and own your light! People will commentate from the sidelines and take no part in your struggle, you can do bad all by yourself. So refuse to allow any negative people, words or energy dwell among you.
Life is short so be intentional. People may not understand you, but they need to respect your choices just the same. Be confident in the fact what is meant for you will not be given to anyone else, no matter what is may look like, trust that as a divine law! You were born to be a success! That’s not arrogance that God-fidence!
Now go own your life and let your joy shine through!
Would you jump out of a plane without a parachute?
Well maybe you would if you knew you could fly!
The scary part is figuring out the unknown, but that’s also the adventure.
So many of us are leading safe lives. Safe, however, doesn’t always equal fulfilling. Whether we chose the safe mate or the safe job versus the relationship or career that would have required some time, focus and effort. The thing about safe is, it often lacks passion and over time we lose interest.
Which leads us to look for the next safe or sure mate or job. Relationships nor jobs should be burdensome, when they are they drain us of energy and add undue stress and at times even physical ailments to our lives. I harp a lot on life being too short to live unhappily. Our lives should be lived with passion and purpose, and that often involves risk.
What better bet is there than to bet on yourself?
Faith is to believe in the unseen, so envision and then live your best life. For now, you may plan to work, but be planning to work your plan. Write it down, make a vision board, record your thoughts. Do what you have to now, so that you can do what you want to later. But whatever you do, don’t give up on your dreams and don’t lose your vision. If you can commit to working to the express benefit and betterment of someone else, why not channel those energies into a business idea for yourself.
We have so many talents that we leave on the back burner for the sake of being “responsible” and making sure money, it’s understandable, but again if it’s not making you happy or adding to your sense of peace of mind, it’s not worth it in the end.
Sometimes the only thing between you and success, is YOU! Stop blocking your growth and stop blocking your blessings.
Speak your prosperity and vision of success into the Universe and believe in the power of YOU!
The difference between life and death is literally breath!
In order to be blessed with the gift of life, you will at some point and time experience the pain of physical death. I say physical death because the spirit of a person lives far beyond the physical body is capable of.
Remember, life although a blessing does not always seem fair and likewise death does not discriminate taking old and young alike.
It’s hard not to question those things which you truly do not understand, it does not make you a bad person it makes you one that is hurting.
How you deal with death is a personal thing and likewise so is the grieving process.
No one can tell someone else how to grieve or what an acceptable grieving time frame should be.
Rather we have to understand that there are varying stages of grief and they are not always followed in a logical or sequential order.
Loss of life causes a gaping hole in the lives of those connected to the person.
We grieve not just the loss of life, but sometimes we lose purpose and connection that the person afforded us.
For those who have become caregivers of the deceased, we have to now find something to fill the free time we find ourselves with.
What do we do with ourselves when our days are no longer bombarded with caring for others, doctors appointments, cooking, cleaning and the like?
What happens when we are no longer busy, being busy?
That is usually the time when grief becomes real, after the memorials, funerals and family have all gone back to living their lives.
The grief can be enveloping and if you are not careful, all consuming. It can be the heaviest thing you have ever carried in your life and without a support system, it can overtake and overpower you.
Whether that support system is friends/family, spirituality or faith based, ground yourself in that support.
It’s easy to isolate yourself and feel as if no one else knows the pain of your loss and while all loss is individualized in how it affects you, there are many others that have felt the pain of loss in their lives.
I have learned through the many experiences I have had with death, those occurring naturally and even murder, ranging from miscarriage, childhood best friends, parents, sibling and other family members that the best way to honor a death is to keep or start living a purpose filled life.
Death, if nothing else, teaches us that time is limited and for some it is more limited than for others.
We must live each day with the determination to live our best life. It is the simplest way to honor the love, legacy and spirit of those that have gone before us.
Does that mean we won’t have days filled with tears or intermittent moments of sadness, of course not, emotions and the ability to express those feelings make us intimately more human.
But don’t drown in those depressed emotions, because life with all its twists and turns is a true gift and we must go on!
Time doesn’t truly erase all grief, but it does make it a lighter load to bear!
So brush off the happiest memory you can find from the recesses of your mind and clothe yourself in that memory.
Let the warmth of that moment envelope you and let the smile that it brings act as a light to illuminate all your darkest hours.
Go forth love, laugh and most of all LIVE!!
Sometimes it’s hard to follow through on realizing a dream. Oftentimes for no other reason than we stand in our own way. We let the minor details overwhelm us into do nothingness. Instead of combating each small goal one step at a time. We get comfortable in the darkness and stop working towards the light.
This was a problem I battled. For years friends and acquaintances alike encouraged me to write a book, to get my words out there. And for years I hemmed and hawed and smiled saying I would or that I was working on it. Most of the time working on it meant I wrote down my goal and a few notes and then became overwhelmed at the thought and pushed it away. Until one day a sister-friend saw I needed a good shove off the ledge. She called and me and said, “Sis you have all the material already for a book. Copy and paste all those Facebook posts, print them out, categorize them and publish your book!” In other words, “Sis stop playing and make a move!” So, that’s exactly what I did.
My friend was the catalyst bearing clarity I needed to clearly see the steps and path I needed to take to reach my goal. Once that path was laid, it was nothing to complete. I had a book self-published so fast even I was in awe of myself. Luckily for me that fire is still burning and the urge to create is still there. So, I’m writing and blogging and creating, preparing for my next project or projects. I’m trying not to worry too much about sales and projections. I understand to finish big you must start small and I’m already claiming greater works and greater sales in my future endeavors.
That’s the thing about dreams, you must keep pushing and working on them. No matter what the outlook may look like. The adversary will try to trick you into believing your good wasn’t good enough, or that your best fell short. But I know that light flows out of darkness, the flame will spark, if you are patient and just keep pushing!
Refocus, reorganize, re-energize but don’t you dare quit!
November is my birth month and as I get ready to celebrate my 47th revolution around the sun on the 10th I sit back and think of what my life has been so far.
I must thank my parents, a bittersweet contemplation as they are both no longer on this earth with me. I continue to hold them in my heart and I pray I am a good representation of what they were both like as parents and individuals.
47 years and still so much I want to accomplish but I’ve learned that you can’t discount the little things in your life when counting blessings.
Sometimes we get caught up waiting for the “big blessings” and forget to be OK with having enough. There are so many people that do need have enough to meet their basic needs and yet we all get caught up in the vanity of our desires. But it’s here and now as I contemplate my life thus far that I make a conscious effort to be OK with enough. I know that more good things are destined for my life, but even if there weren’t I couldn’t complain because I’ve been greatly blessed. Blessed with a 2-parent home growing up, siblings, friends that became family, great school experiences, introduction to art and culture, self-identity, traveling outside my city and state, motherhood, skills, creative mind-set, nursing career and more. Phew! That’s a lot to be thankful for.
I also have come to realize how important it is to take the time to make the time. We often say we are too busy with life, family and work. But when you lose a loved one or friend and you reflect on all the missed moments that you were “too busy” you come to realize that you will make time and effort for things and people that are truly important. Love just can’t be spoken it has to be shown to truly be felt in its wholeness. There is no better feeling than true love, friendship and admiration. If someone crosses your mind call them or visit. Don’t rely on social media and allow it to replace the intimacy of human contact and interaction.
And although at times I think I should be much further in life than I am, I also understand I am exactly where I need to be, and I helped exactly who I needed to by being exactly where I am. So, I am appreciating and trusting the process.
I will continue to dream my dreams and chase my goals. I will take the time, to make the time for family and friends. I will laugh, love and live. Most of all I will be thankful for enough and remember that I am enough personified!
Remember to make the time between the dash count!
I offered you a big cup to fill your soul up
but you didn’t see the treasure
as you looked for other pleasures
now you can’t find a way to quench your thirst
thinking you could find better when you had the best first
trying so hard to satisfy your desires
yet it seems no one else can stoke your fire
should have taken that cup
now time has passed you up
as you stand there regretting
fate will have you witness someone else’s cup
be filled soul satisfyingly up
I’ve loved words before I could speak them
They created lullabies in the womb by which I grew
Words are my music
They create symphonic images in my mind that stir my soul
Words have always held magic and power
The power to buildup and the power to breakdown
The power to hurt and the power to heal
The power to reconstruct your present and memorialize your past
Words run through my mind like cosmic rays of energy,
I connect with them on a spiritual level
Words lift me and twirl me around in dizzying yet gratifying circles
Providing comfort throughout life’s trials
Becoming my friend and confidante and sealing my relationship with pen and paper
Words are free
Free to just be
Yet have the power to be different things for different people and situations
Words tend to knowledge and wisdom when applied to an open mind
Words are transformative
Words are life
Sometimes in our quest to find fulfillment, we become overwhelmed and our mind shuts down.
We can envision so many scenarios for our life but unless we stick to one path and one goal at a time, the road becomes cluttered with an overabundance of paths that lead to nowhere. It’s impossible to learn to walk without learning the art of taking one step at a time, such is true in regard to progression in life.
There very well may be a broad picture, but sometimes we have to allow ourselves to work up to that, one stroke and one step at a time. Not allowing ourselves to measure our progress through the comparison of others seemingly on similar paths. Each journey is different and each lesson is Divinely tailored for the person receiving it.
We have to learn to be patient and for some waiting is so very difficult. But when we attempt to push when we are supposed to be still, the Supreme Power has a way of shutting us down and forcing us to be still and listen to instruction. It’s impossible to listen when one is not focused and one cannot be focused when energies are concentrated on a multitude of things all at once. It’s when we are unfocused that we often find we are busy, yet still accomplishing nothing, because we have not devoted ourselves 100% to one thing at a time.
There is a difference between multi-tasking and multi-masking, multi-tasking is completing or performing multiple tasks at the same time to a desired end. Multi-masking is the appearance of making moves when no progression or completion of tasks is actually ever made.
We have to allow ourselves breathing room, learning how to not only be patient with others, but more importantly with ourselves.
So stop trying to force your neighbor’s shoes onto your feet and stop trying to follow the map to someone else’s life, it won’t lead you to your treasure.
Stop worrying about how your life looks to others and get busy one step towards progress at a time
Instead, BE STILL. LISTEN. PLAN. Then FOLLOW your plan to get to your desired end result.~micaiah