Tag: peace

Embrace Your Inner Queen: A Journey to Self-Worth and Empowerment

I speak from the perspective of a woman, for that is who I am.

As women, we sometimes accept preconceived notions and convince ourselves that these notions serve us well. For instance, when faced with men who habitually cheat—there is a stark difference between a man who deceives and betrays, and one who honestly expresses his desire not to be monogamous. The truth may hurt, but it remains the truth.

Some women accept the deceitful behavior of a cheating partner as evidence that all men cheat, resigning themselves to being treated as less deserving. They endure lies and disrespect, believing it’s better to stick with the familiar than to risk the unknown. They fail to realize that a lack of boundaries fosters a lack of respect.

You cannot accept someone’s garbage and then wonder why they treat you like trash. This is akin to Stockholm Syndrome—loving and empathizing with your abuser. Placing yourself in a situation where you are degraded through lies and treachery is emotional and mental abuse, leading to feelings of worthlessness and low self-esteem.

What you allow is what will continue. You must command respect, and if those demands are not met, love yourself enough to walk away from any situation where you are treated as less than the treasure you are.

Women, do not view being alone as being lonely. Use that time to define and refine yourself. Treat yourself to all the things you deserve. Discover the beauty and peace in self-love and self-respect, and experience the soul-fulfilling joy of peace of mind.

Never allow someone else to become so important that you lose yourself and your dignity. Forgive yourself for lapses in judgment and poor decisions. As you learn better, be determined to do better. You cannot move forward safely if you are stuck looking backward.

A Queen does not cease to be royalty simply because there is no King by her side. Clothe yourself in love, crown yourself in self-worth, and never allow anyone to treat you as less than the regal woman you are.

Everyone has played the fool for love at some point; the key is not becoming comfortable in that role.~micaiah

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The Subtle Art of Not Being the One

In every family or relationship, whether personal or professional, there’s always the ONE. The go-to person, the dependable, responsible one who gets the job done and makes things happen. This is the person everyone turns to when times get tough, the Strong ONE who shoulders all burdens and still comes out on top. People cast their troubles upon the most capable shoulders, and the ONE dutifully exceeds all expectations.

However, it’s important to remember that even the Strong ONE has their own issues and problems to deal with. Even strong, responsible people need shoulders to lean on from time to time. The ONE needs time to decompress and just be with themselves, but they often don’t take the time, feeling it is their duty to fix all the problems around them. Even Superman knew to take time out and be just regular old Clark Kent.

Being the ONE can be both a blessing and a curse, especially for those who haven’t learned the difference between wanting to say no and needing to say no. Being the natural fixer without defined boundaries can leave you overdrawn and depleted, with no way to refill your own cup. In our zeal to help others, we must ensure we are not robbing ourselves.

You do a disservice to others when helping them becomes burdensome to your spirit and starts to weigh you down. Saying no is not about withholding assistance; it’s often about self-preservation and recognizing that to say yes is to give away the very essence of yourself, leaving nothing left.

Do not feel guilty for setting limits and taking the time to remove the cape. Be gentle with yourself, even the broadest shoulders can break under unevenly distributed weight. Help others understand that you are not the only one capable of handling situations or tasks. Often, you are just the easier or more cooperative choice.

It’s a complete sentence

Instead of taking on others’ causes, suggest ways they can handle the matter themselves. Help to enable them, not be an enabler. As the saying goes, give a man a fish, and he eats for a day; teach him to fish, and he can feed himself for a lifetime.

Remember, it’s hard to move while carrying the weight of others. Free yourself, and at the same time, free them from always having to depend on you.~micaiah

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“The strength of a person is not measured by their ability to carry the weight of the world, but by their ability to lift others up while standing tall themselves.” ~anonymous

My wish for 2022

I didn’t make any resolutions per say, I’d label them more goals, manifestations or key words.

I’m working towards being a better me daily.

My keywords are: completion, abundance, dedication and renew.

I fervently hope 2022 brings fresh energy with it and good health. This pandemic has been rough to live through, but we take the bitter with the sweet and keep it pushing.

I hope people give themselves the grace they extend to others this year.

I hope people learn to love themselves in such a way that it lends itself to treating others better as well.

Even if the world is unkind, I plan to practice more mindfulness and being grateful.

I plan to love myself so well, others smile when they see my happy glow.

Big changes can occur by first taking small steps.

Sometimes we overwhelm ourselves by planning too big.

We need to take small bite sized portions of those big plans to make them more manageable.

Also, having more small steps can give you a greater sense of accomplishment when you are able to scratch them off as completed. Let 2022 be about celebrating the small wins too.

We may not have arrived at our desired destination, but if we give ourselves credit we’ve done far more than we often realize.

So, 2022 is about self-love, self-care, space from people, things and energy that no longer serve you and grace.

I pray you find peace and joy in the simple things and that you understand sometimes you are more rich than your back account would imply.

No matter what your dreams, goals, resolutions or aspirations look like, I am claiming they all come true! Let’s go have an awesome year, no matter what comes our way!

~Micaiah

Protect your peace

Some people are so used to chaos and toxicity they will choose stagnation/denial over growth.

They will find any excuse to hold onto the negative traits/situation/characteristics that they’ve normalized.

They’ll never recognize the healthy support and encouragement you offer.


Your normalcy and positivity is a shock to their system. You can’t change a person that refuses to see they are the problem.

That’s why you have to love some people from a distance and above all else protect your peace.

~micaiahism

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