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The Subtle Art of Not Being the One

In every family or relationship, whether personal or professional, there’s always the ONE. The go-to person, the dependable, responsible one who gets the job done and makes things happen. This is the person everyone turns to when times get tough, the Strong ONE who shoulders all burdens and still comes out on top. People cast their troubles upon the most capable shoulders, and the ONE dutifully exceeds all expectations.

However, it’s important to remember that even the Strong ONE has their own issues and problems to deal with. Even strong, responsible people need shoulders to lean on from time to time. The ONE needs time to decompress and just be with themselves, but they often don’t take the time, feeling it is their duty to fix all the problems around them. Even Superman knew to take time out and be just regular old Clark Kent.

Being the ONE can be both a blessing and a curse, especially for those who haven’t learned the difference between wanting to say no and needing to say no. Being the natural fixer without defined boundaries can leave you overdrawn and depleted, with no way to refill your own cup. In our zeal to help others, we must ensure we are not robbing ourselves.

You do a disservice to others when helping them becomes burdensome to your spirit and starts to weigh you down. Saying no is not about withholding assistance; it’s often about self-preservation and recognizing that to say yes is to give away the very essence of yourself, leaving nothing left.

Do not feel guilty for setting limits and taking the time to remove the cape. Be gentle with yourself, even the broadest shoulders can break under unevenly distributed weight. Help others understand that you are not the only one capable of handling situations or tasks. Often, you are just the easier or more cooperative choice.

It’s a complete sentence

Instead of taking on others’ causes, suggest ways they can handle the matter themselves. Help to enable them, not be an enabler. As the saying goes, give a man a fish, and he eats for a day; teach him to fish, and he can feed himself for a lifetime.

Remember, it’s hard to move while carrying the weight of others. Free yourself, and at the same time, free them from always having to depend on you.~micaiah

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“The strength of a person is not measured by their ability to carry the weight of the world, but by their ability to lift others up while standing tall themselves.” ~anonymous

Embrace Your Own Truth


Life often feels less like a smooth path and more like a winding, sometimes treacherous, journey.

We’ve all been there—stumbling, our vision blurred by past hurts and present uncertainties. It’s easy to get knocked off course, to let our dreams gather dust, and to lose focus in the face of what feels like “foolishness and hocus pocus.”


My poem, “My own truth,” beautifully captures this struggle:

My Own Truth

Walking, no, more like stumbling through life
Vision blurred by all that’s occurred
Not staying on course has my dreams deferred
Allowed myself to lose focus
Due to foolishness and hocus pocus
Let comparison rob me of objectivity
had me forgetting about the blessings just for me
Doubt had me believing delayed had turned into denied
Had me trusting in worry and anxieties lies
Had to get regrounded and regroup
Had to familiarize myself again with my own truth
Had to remind myself of whose child I was
And that my gifts are truly a blessing from above
There is no timeframe or race
Just continue on and keep the pace
With renewed faith, my vision cleared
And once again I’m ready to tackle all I once feared.~MY


It’s a powerful reminder that comparison can be a thief of joy, blinding us to the unique blessings tailor-made just for us. Doubt can whisper lies, convincing us that delays are denials, and pulling us into the trap of worry and anxiety.


But the poem also offers the profound solution: we must reground and regroup, and most importantly, familiarize ourselves again with our own truth.

This means remembering our inherent worth, acknowledging the unique gifts that are truly blessings, and understanding that our journey isn’t a race against anyone else.


With renewed faith, our vision clears, and we find the courage to confront the very things we once feared.

So, if you’re feeling lost or off-kilter, take a moment to reflect. What is your truth? What blessings have you overlooked? And what fears are you ready to conquer with newfound clarity?
Embrace your journey, trust your pace, and let your own truth light your way.
~micaiah

Your Race, Your Rules: The Power and Freedom of Reinventing Yourself

Feeling a little overshadowed by the hustle of younger generations? In today’s fast-paced world of startups and side hustles, it’s easy for those of us over 40, who are just hitting our stride, to feel a flicker of doubt. It might seem like younger entrepreneurs have already reached their peak while you’re still climbing. But here’s the truth: your journey is uniquely yours, and your wisdom is your superpower.

For many of us, the path laid out in our youth was clear: get an education, find a stable job, and stay there. The idea of building our own empires? That wasn’t part of the traditional playbook. But times have changed, and so has our perspective. We’ve seen firsthand that while education can be an advantage, it can also lead to debt. We’ve witnessed the power of entrepreneurship and personal branding – the incredible freedom of building something for ourselves instead of just building someone else’s dream.


It takes immense courage to break free from old patterns and embrace something new. So, if you’ve spent years following the script and are now ready to revisit your passions and purpose, give yourself a massive round of applause! You’re not just changing careers; you’re reclaiming your narrative.


And here’s where your age becomes your greatest asset. With years of life experience, you bring a wealth of knowledge, resilience, and a deeper understanding of what truly drives happiness and fulfillment. These “well-seasoned” entrepreneurs possess invaluable life skills that are crucial for success in business and branding. You’re living proof that you absolutely can teach an old dog new tricks, shattering that myth with every bold step you take. It is never too late to reinvent yourself.


All you need is the drive, determination, and unwavering belief to shift your mindset and, in turn, transform your life. Don’t ever allow anyone or any circumstance to box you in. Remember this mantra daily, if necessary: the only thing standing in your way is you. Empowerment begins within. Believe in your self-worth, envision your success, and know that you are fully capable of achieving it.


Regardless of our age, we are all human beings striving to live our best lives. Let’s collaborate, learn from each other, and build a future where wisdom and innovation converge. The synergy of experienced minds and fresh perspectives is a force to be reckoned with.


As the timeless saying goes, “The race is not given to the swift, but to those who endure to the end.” So keep pushing, keep learning, and never, ever quit. We’re here believing in you every step of the way!~Micaiah

Deflecting Negativity in a Single Bound

The only goals we never meet are the ones we put no effort in pursuing.

We have the ability to change our lives with the changing of our mindset. Words and thoughts hold power and we have the power to self-sabotage our happiness, when we put unhealthy vibrations in the universe.

Sometimes we manifest failure, through self-doubt and negative self-talk.

Block negative thoughts

These thoughts cause us to put forth less effort and without full effort, goals and relationships become burdensome and disintegrate. 

When we want success we have to think successfully. Affirm that what you want, is what you will have. Claim it as truth and being present already.

Energy is movement so when you focus your thoughts on positive things the universe works to place those things in motion for your good, but you do have to work towards them. Words without actions are dead.

Also, it helps to make your goals visible, this is one reason why vision boards are so powerful. They are reminders that our goals are tangible and obtainable. A visual cue of where you need to focus your time and energy.

Visualize your goals and dreams

Remember, goals can be revised, as we reach new levels in self-awareness, our goals and aspirations may change.

You are your only boundary and parameter. The only limits on your life are the ones you set.

So, let your dreams be boundless. Speak and claim positivity and abundance in and on your life. Invest in and sponsor your dreams.

Voice your victories and speak prosperity into your life. You have the power to live your best life. No more fear, no more doubts, no more excuses.

Go ahead and live your best life.

You can do it. You have the power!

-Micaiah

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