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Embrace Your Inner Queen: A Journey to Self-Worth and Empowerment

I speak from the perspective of a woman, for that is who I am.

As women, we sometimes accept preconceived notions and convince ourselves that these notions serve us well. For instance, when faced with men who habitually cheat—there is a stark difference between a man who deceives and betrays, and one who honestly expresses his desire not to be monogamous. The truth may hurt, but it remains the truth.

Some women accept the deceitful behavior of a cheating partner as evidence that all men cheat, resigning themselves to being treated as less deserving. They endure lies and disrespect, believing it’s better to stick with the familiar than to risk the unknown. They fail to realize that a lack of boundaries fosters a lack of respect.

You cannot accept someone’s garbage and then wonder why they treat you like trash. This is akin to Stockholm Syndrome—loving and empathizing with your abuser. Placing yourself in a situation where you are degraded through lies and treachery is emotional and mental abuse, leading to feelings of worthlessness and low self-esteem.

What you allow is what will continue. You must command respect, and if those demands are not met, love yourself enough to walk away from any situation where you are treated as less than the treasure you are.

Women, do not view being alone as being lonely. Use that time to define and refine yourself. Treat yourself to all the things you deserve. Discover the beauty and peace in self-love and self-respect, and experience the soul-fulfilling joy of peace of mind.

Never allow someone else to become so important that you lose yourself and your dignity. Forgive yourself for lapses in judgment and poor decisions. As you learn better, be determined to do better. You cannot move forward safely if you are stuck looking backward.

A Queen does not cease to be royalty simply because there is no King by her side. Clothe yourself in love, crown yourself in self-worth, and never allow anyone to treat you as less than the regal woman you are.

Everyone has played the fool for love at some point; the key is not becoming comfortable in that role.~micaiah

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Embrace Your Own Truth


Life often feels less like a smooth path and more like a winding, sometimes treacherous, journey.

We’ve all been there—stumbling, our vision blurred by past hurts and present uncertainties. It’s easy to get knocked off course, to let our dreams gather dust, and to lose focus in the face of what feels like “foolishness and hocus pocus.”


My poem, “My own truth,” beautifully captures this struggle:

My Own Truth

Walking, no, more like stumbling through life
Vision blurred by all that’s occurred
Not staying on course has my dreams deferred
Allowed myself to lose focus
Due to foolishness and hocus pocus
Let comparison rob me of objectivity
had me forgetting about the blessings just for me
Doubt had me believing delayed had turned into denied
Had me trusting in worry and anxieties lies
Had to get regrounded and regroup
Had to familiarize myself again with my own truth
Had to remind myself of whose child I was
And that my gifts are truly a blessing from above
There is no timeframe or race
Just continue on and keep the pace
With renewed faith, my vision cleared
And once again I’m ready to tackle all I once feared.~MY


It’s a powerful reminder that comparison can be a thief of joy, blinding us to the unique blessings tailor-made just for us. Doubt can whisper lies, convincing us that delays are denials, and pulling us into the trap of worry and anxiety.


But the poem also offers the profound solution: we must reground and regroup, and most importantly, familiarize ourselves again with our own truth.

This means remembering our inherent worth, acknowledging the unique gifts that are truly blessings, and understanding that our journey isn’t a race against anyone else.


With renewed faith, our vision clears, and we find the courage to confront the very things we once feared.

So, if you’re feeling lost or off-kilter, take a moment to reflect. What is your truth? What blessings have you overlooked? And what fears are you ready to conquer with newfound clarity?
Embrace your journey, trust your pace, and let your own truth light your way.
~micaiah

Your Race, Your Rules: The Power and Freedom of Reinventing Yourself

Feeling a little overshadowed by the hustle of younger generations? In today’s fast-paced world of startups and side hustles, it’s easy for those of us over 40, who are just hitting our stride, to feel a flicker of doubt. It might seem like younger entrepreneurs have already reached their peak while you’re still climbing. But here’s the truth: your journey is uniquely yours, and your wisdom is your superpower.

For many of us, the path laid out in our youth was clear: get an education, find a stable job, and stay there. The idea of building our own empires? That wasn’t part of the traditional playbook. But times have changed, and so has our perspective. We’ve seen firsthand that while education can be an advantage, it can also lead to debt. We’ve witnessed the power of entrepreneurship and personal branding – the incredible freedom of building something for ourselves instead of just building someone else’s dream.


It takes immense courage to break free from old patterns and embrace something new. So, if you’ve spent years following the script and are now ready to revisit your passions and purpose, give yourself a massive round of applause! You’re not just changing careers; you’re reclaiming your narrative.


And here’s where your age becomes your greatest asset. With years of life experience, you bring a wealth of knowledge, resilience, and a deeper understanding of what truly drives happiness and fulfillment. These “well-seasoned” entrepreneurs possess invaluable life skills that are crucial for success in business and branding. You’re living proof that you absolutely can teach an old dog new tricks, shattering that myth with every bold step you take. It is never too late to reinvent yourself.


All you need is the drive, determination, and unwavering belief to shift your mindset and, in turn, transform your life. Don’t ever allow anyone or any circumstance to box you in. Remember this mantra daily, if necessary: the only thing standing in your way is you. Empowerment begins within. Believe in your self-worth, envision your success, and know that you are fully capable of achieving it.


Regardless of our age, we are all human beings striving to live our best lives. Let’s collaborate, learn from each other, and build a future where wisdom and innovation converge. The synergy of experienced minds and fresh perspectives is a force to be reckoned with.


As the timeless saying goes, “The race is not given to the swift, but to those who endure to the end.” So keep pushing, keep learning, and never, ever quit. We’re here believing in you every step of the way!~Micaiah

The Unfortunate Habit of getting Burned

When you are little your parents, if they are the nurturing and loving sort, try to warn you from all the ills in life that will bring you pain. They tell you, “No, sweetie don’t touch that hot pot you’ll get burned.” “Don’t climb so high you’ll fall down.” And sometimes you listen and stayed safe and sometimes curiosity killed the cat or at least curiosity burned your hand, as you learned the hard way that it hurts to touch a hot stove.

People that give and give of themselves, never setting boundaries with others that gladly take from them, are like that small child, that heard the warning yet still took the chance of being burned.

Sure, everyone knows that you can’t pour from an empty cup. But no one explains how to break the cycle of feeling as if we have to please people in order to feel love. Or how gratifying it can be to give to yourself what you so freely give to others.

From the time we are young, we see examples of our mothers giving of themselves to take care of the children, the home and their mate/husband. We see single moms that make things happen when there is seemingly no way they should. We see adults tired, working day in and day out so their families can survive. So, we absorb that mentality that you give to those you care about even if they never have anything to give you, you just keep giving. Even to the point of defeat and exhaustion. Working and giving of themselves sometimes straight into early graves.

It’s a seriously flawed concept. One that often leads to couples staying together to raise children only to divorce later once the kids are “old enough,” often feeling they lived a life unfulfilled. And single moms feeling as if they wasted all their good years on their grown, ungrateful kids. While sometimes that is the case, oftentimes these feelings are a result of extreme burn out. Of having your soul depleted to the point you have nothing to give, not a thought, worry or care, not even for yourself.

We have to change the mindset that is is better to give than to receive. Let’s say, it’s better to give just as much as you get, even if those things you get are a result of your own doing. We have to learn to refill our cups. We are solely responsible for maintaining our inner peace and happiness. Can other people lend to those feelings? Absolutely! But they are not the driving force behind those feelings. That is an inside job.

People will tell you “No” is a complete sentence. Yet, you will still worry your nerves over saying it, feeling as if you need to expound on the reason. You do not have to feel guilty for using your excess on yourself. Whether that excess is time, money or energy. You are not obligated to give so much of yourself to anyone that it leaves you with nothing left for you.

You have to learn to schedule and set aside time for yourself. Give yourself gifts, write yourself notes affirming how amazing you are. Buy yourself those flowers, or that pretty dress. Dress up just because you like the way it makes you feel. When you start treating yourself right and ensuring your cup stays full. People will reap the benefit of your overflow. You’ll be so full, you can’t help but to give that overflow to others and it won’t even be as noticeable.

Stop allowing yourself to be burned by the expectations of others. Stop equating your acts of service as fair exchange for love, affection and appreciation. Those things should be given freely and not contingent on what someone can get from or out of you.

You are too amazing to keep allowing your soul to be exhausted. Guard yourself and set those boundaries. People that truly love you will never want to see you get burned.

~Micaiah

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